Confidence, we all talk about it,we all have it and we all generally would like more of at certain times in ourlives, but what actually is it?
Quite simply, confidence is justa set of skills that can be learned by anyone to give them the feeling thatthey can succeed in any given situation or circumstance. That’s Great News! Why? Because it means that we can all learnto have more whenever we need it, it’s not genetic, it’s nothing to do with howmuch money we have, it’s nothing to do with upbringing, it’s not for a selectgroup – it’s there for us all!!! Hooray!!
Very often we are confident insome areas of our lives and not others for example you might be confident athome with your family but not so confident in meetings with those above you atwork, you might be confident in your job but not good at making friends easily,you may be confident with your friends but not in dealing with children. In order to learn the skills we need it’s usefulto identify which specific areas do you lack confidence and why and how wouldlife be different if you had more confidence in this area? So go ahead andanswer these questions for yourself right now.
What areas of my life do I lackconfidence in?
How would it be different if Ihad more confidence in this area of my life?
Congratulations! You have justbegun the process of being more confident by taking the first steps inidentifying what can be improved and importantly why you want to improveit. So for your chosen situation can youthink of someone that you know or have seen who has the kind of confidence thatyou would like in that situation? Write down their name and then list what youadmire about them in that situation? How do they walk, stand, breathe, speak,what is their body language, what questions do they ask, what sort of words dothey use? Imagine what it’s like to be them. If you have the opportunity, whynot ask them? One of the best things to do to learn to be confident is to modelsomeone who is already great at it. Ask them if they are always confident,chances are they feel a little nervous at times too, they just do it anyway andthat’s the key. Confident people still feel a bit scared – they are justprepared to give it a go anyway. That’sgood news for the rest of us J We’ll look at someof the other ways to help us just do it anyway in future articles. For now,just take the actions above and you’re well on your way to a more confidentyou.